You ought to be ashamed...

"Shaming" is a thing these days.

Many of us have seen the funny posts with picture after picture of a cat or dog with a sign declaring what "shameful" thing they have done, like the cat who sat and watched a mouse eat her food, or the dog who grabbed the last piece of chicken off the serving tray when nobody was watching.  We laugh at these because, honestly, a lot of them are hilarious.

Then there are the less funny ones, like parents who publicly shame their children as a form of punishment, or worse, who publicly shame their children for their own amusement.  Mom-shaming is also a thing.  According to UrbanDictionary.com, mom shaming is "criticizing or degrading a mother for her parenting choices because they differ from the choices the shamer would make." (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=mom-shaming).  These are only a couple of examples.  There are many more out there.

Generally, especially as Christians, we look on these things as bad.  We should, because they are.  "Shaming" like that is degrading and malicious.  I could spend the rest of this post talking about the "hows and whys" of it, but that's not why I'm writing today.  Today, I am writing because of the ways we SHOULD be shaming.

"WHAT???"

Yes, you read that right.

Ephesians 5:11-12 says, "Don't participate in the fruitless works of darkness, but instead expose them.  For it is shameful even to mention what is done by them in secret." (Emphasis mine.)

Shameful.  Even the mention of those sinful acts is considered to be full of shame.  According  to Merriam-Webster's online dictionary, shame is defined as "a painful emotion caused by a consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety." (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/shame).  As Christians, we are directed to be "imitators of God" (Eph. 5:1), and to stay away from things like sexual immorality, impurity, greed, obscene and foolish talking, crude joking, etc. (Eph. 5:3-5).  The culture we live in, though, thrives on these things, with no shame.  Christian, I would venture to say that at least a portion of this is because we no longer view or address them as shameful.

Now, I'm not saying that we should be "shaming" the sinner.  Not the way the world "shames" people.  Again, it is malicious and degrading and hateful.  We are called to love, not to hate.  To quote a catchphrase from my childhood, "Hate the sin, but love the sinner."

Instead, we need to be addressing the sin itself as shameful.  STOP LOOKING THE OTHER WAY!!!  When we laugh at the crude jokes, take advantage of someone financially, watch cruelty and violence without taking action (whether it's on TV, on social media, in person, or whatever), et cetera, we are condoning those things, giving them our seal of approval, which is the exact opposite of acknowledging or expressing their shame.  You know what else, Christian?  When you do that, you are telling people that God approves of those actions, which is a bold-faced LIE.  You think I'm being extreme in saying that?  Let's check scripture...

"Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, since God is making his appeal through us.  We plead on Christ's behalf: 'Be reconciled to God.'" - 2 Cor 5:20

Back to the dictionary.  Ambassador, according to Merriam-Webster, means "an official envoy especially: a diplomatic agent of the highest rank accredited to a foreign government or sovereign as the resident representative of his or her own government or sovereign or appointed for a special and often temporary diplomatic assignment" (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/ambassador)

As Christ's ambassadors, everything we do represents Him.  We even meet the "special and... temporary" part of the definition.  We are only on this earth for a short time, and have a very specific and special mission to make disciples.  Condoning shameful, sinful behavior hurts that mission.

Maybe you've thought briefly about this before.  Maybe you haven't.  Either way, now you're faced a decision to make... which path are you going to walk?  Are you going to look the other way, condoning sinful and shameful behavior?  Or are you going to take a stand for your mission?

Prepared to work!

Here we go, talking about works again...

Still reading in Ephesians, in chapter 4 today. One of the things I love about Scripture is that the Holy Spirit points out something new each time we read it. I've read through this passage more times than I can count, but I got something out of it today that I haven't before. In verses 11-12, I've always focused on the fact that we each have unique spiritual gifts, and each have our own individual focus. Today, though, the phrase "to prepare God's people for works of service" is what hit me like a ton of bricks.

This goes back to my post from Thursday, on Ephesians 2:10. We each have a job to do! Just like we each have our own unique set of spiritual gifts, and our own unique purpose, we also each have our own unique "works of service" that we are intended by God to do. That's part of WHY He gives us those spiritual gifts in the first place! Of course, ultimately, our purpose is to bring Him glory, but one of the ways we are to do this is by serving others. Those works that I mentioned a few days ago, that we are supposed to do after we are saved, include works of service. What that service work looks like depends on you. Pray about it. Ask God where He wants you to serve. That won't be enough, though, because here comes the hard part...

Once you know what that service is, you have to go do it. Some times it will come easily, out of joy, and it will be a pure act of love and not feel like work at all. Other times, though, it will be scary, and you will face opposition and persecution. That, my friend, is the devil, trying to stop you from serving. Remember the words of Jesus in John 15:18, "If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first." Where do you think that hatred comes from? It comes from the evil one, who wants everyone else he can get to burn with him for the rest of eternity. Stay strong! Remember something else Jesus said: "Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you." (Matthew 5:11-12)

Saved for works

Many of us are familiar with the passage in Ephesians that says "For you are saved by grace through faith, and this is not from yourselves; it is God's gift - not from works, so that no one can boast." (Eph 2:8-9) And it's so true. There is nothing we can *do* to earn salvation. Nothing we do could ever be enough to pay the death penalty for our sins.

Don't miss the next verse, though... "For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared ahead of time for us to do." (Eph 2:10) In other words, once we're saved, that's not the end of our time or mission here on earth. We still have work to do!

Remember that we aren't saved by our works. Rather, we work because of our salvation. Find that work that you are called to do. Do every bit of it for God's glory. "So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God." (1 Cor. 10:31)

Birth Pains?

In Matthew chapter 24, Jesus is talking with His disciples about the end times...

"Jesus answered: 'Watch out that no one deceives you. For many will come in my name, claiming "I am the Christ," and will deceive many. You will hear of wars and rumors of wars, but see to it that you are not alarmed. Such things must happen, but the end is still to come. Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be famines and earthquakes in various places. All these are the beginning of birth pains.'" (v. 4-8)

It struck me as interesting this morning that He would compare it to birth pains, so I pondered on it some. I'm not bringing any of this up to start a discussion on "end times doctrine" or anything like that. Regardless of which school of thought you ascribe to, there are points that we agree on: A) we live in a fallen world right now, full of sin, pain, & suffering. B) It's going to get worse (see above verses and the rest of Matthew 24 for example).

According to Jesus, though, it's like birth pains. My first child's birth is the only one I truly experienced, as the rest ended up as c-sections. (I am NOT opening up a birth debate right now! This is only mentioned for comparison points with the given example of "birth pains." Regardless of whether the birth is surgical, natural, or anywhere in between, it is still a precious thing!) The "beginning of birth pains" is no joke! Your body is squeezing down on the baby, and it's not a pleasant time for either of you. It keeps getting more intense, too, as you go into transition and finally push the baby out. There is nothing in the world quite like it, and the end result, cradling that precious new life in your arms, is also beyond comparison.

Considering that, reading Christ's description of the end times as "the beginning of birth pains" is on one hand unsettling, because that tells me that things will definitely be getting worse in this world before we see true improvement. There will be ebb and flow, and we will have little pockets of relief and short-lived improvement, but overall it will continue to get worse. On the other hand, when we are finally done with the pushing and the squeezing and everything else that is to come, we will be released, only our release will not be into the sinful, pain-filled world that our babies are born into. No, it will be into the glorious presence of God Himself. "And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, 'Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people and God himself will be their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.'" (Revelation 21:3-4)

Created for His Glory

A book I was reading a while back posed the question, "Why is it that when people pursue fulfillment in money and things, fulfillment is elusive?"  My response was "Because it's not true fulfillment for us.  We were made in the image of God, so it stands to reason that HE is where we are designed to find our fulfillment!"

Genesis 1:27 (NIV) says "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them."  This doesn't mean that we have the same facial features, the same hair color, et cetera, but rather that we have an eternal soul.  There is more to it than that, but at this point it's something intangible, something that will be revealed when we are finally in Heaven with Him.  "Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face.  Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known." (I Corinthians 13:12, NIV)  Bottom line: God made us.  "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." (Psalm 139:13-14, NIV)  When He created us, it was more than just our physical bodies.  He gave us souls, emotion, drive and purpose.  His purpose.  "For in him we live and move and have our being." (Acts 17:28a, NIV)

That is how we are created in His image!  We have been created for His purpose, for His glory!  Without Him in our daily life, we are empty.  We try to fill that emptiness with things around us that look pleasing, but it's like trying to fill a strainer with water.  The strainer was not designed to hold water, just like we were not designed to be fulfilled by worldly pursuits.

The Name of the LORD...

Following a series of very long days, I wanted little more than to just stay in bed this morning.  When I opened my Bible, I was looking for some motivation and encouragement.  I was led to Proverbs 18:10, which says "The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe."  How can we be kept safe by just a name?  How can just a name be compared to a strong tower, something that shelters and protects?

In Hebrew culture, your name was more than just what people called you.  Your name defined you.  It explained you.  It was the very essence of your being.  We have an example of that in the book of Ruth. In Ruth 1:18, we hear from Ruth's mother-in-law: "'Don't call me Naomi,' she told them.  'Call me Mara, because the Almighty has made my life very bitter.'"  "Naomi" means pleasant, and "Mara" means bitter.  Because she had changed, her name changed as well.  (If you aren't familiar with the story, I encourage you to read the book of Ruth.  It's a quick read, and one of my and my daughters' favorites!)

The name of the LORD is no different.  He is Righteous.  He is Holy.  He is Everlasting.  He is King of kings.  

We are taught early on in our faith not to misuse His name.  It is even demanded in the Ten Commandments!  "You shall not misuse the name of the LORD your God, for the LORD will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name." (Exodus 20:7)  But do we really understand that fully?  Especially in our culture where your name is little more than just what people call you.  

When we accept Christ, we take on His name.  "Christian" actually means "little Christ."  We have the fish emblems on our cars.  We share all the Scripture posts we see on Facebook.  But do we really take on His name?  Are we really living out the essence, the definition of Jesus Christ?  Do the people around us see the fruit of the Holy Spirit (check out Galatians 5:16-26 for this one), or are we still clinging to our sinful nature?

Misusing the name of the LORD is so much more than using it as a curse or saying it carelessly.  We don't even have to let it cross our lips to misuse it.  We misuse the name of our LORD when we live in a way that misrepresents Him.  When we say or do something that harms another.  When we fail to love those around us.  When we fail to share the gospel message with those around us who are lost and doomed to an eternity in hell.

If I stepped on your toes with this one, don't feel singled out.  I'm just as guilty of misusing the precious name of my LORD as anyone else.  It is my earnest prayer that He will help me be a better representative of who He is, and that He will do the same for you.

"So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God." - 1 Corinthians 10:31

In other words, live life in His name.

Hilarem datorem diligit Deus

Hilarem datorem diligit Deus

That, sadly, is one of the very few phrases I remember from the Latin course I took in high school.  At least it’s not something silly like “The quick brown fox jumped over the lazy dog.”  Oh wait, that was from typing.  Anyway...

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying before: “God loves a cheerful giver.”  It is actually (no surprise here) from a passage in 2 Corinthians 9:6-15 about generous giving (the last phrase of verse 7, to be precise).  While this passage is primarily considered to be about monetary gifts, I say that it is really so much more than that!

Is money the only thing we ever give?  No!  We give so much more, whether we realize it or not!  We give our time, we give our resources, and we give our experience, just to name a few.  When we go to church and teach a class or help in the nursery or work on the sound board or even make a pot of coffee, we are giving.  When we go out in the community and volunteer our time at a hospital or nursing home, we are giving.  When we are standing in line at the grocery store with an overflowing buggy and let the tired and harried looking young woman who walks up behind us with a baby on her hip and two more children behind her take her one pack of diapers and check out ahead of us, we are giving.

WHAT we give is not the point.  HOW we give it is.  If we do it with neon lights, making sure that everybody sees what a great thing we’re doing, then we are doing it to honor ourselves.  It is not truly intended to help the other person, but to make ourselves look good.  When we seek to honor ourselves, there is no space left to honor God.

Another name for this “giving” is “service.”  When we give of ourselves, we are serving.  This service how we show God’s love to those around us, sometimes without even saying a word.

So get out there, look at those around you at home, at church, and in the community, and ask yourself, “What would God have me do to serve this person?”

Do it quietly.

Do it with joy.

Competence?

“Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God.”  -2 Corinthians 3:5 (NIV)

                “Our competence comes from God.”  Our abilities are not our own.  The things I am good at, those traits that make me uniquely “me,” did not come from me!  They were placed in me by God.  Some, my abilities and talents, were wired in at conception.  Others, my spiritual gifts, came about when I accepted Jesus Christ as my Savior and was filled with the Holy Spirit (hence, “spirit”ual gifts).  Bottom line, they came from God, not me! (smile!!)

                This thought fills me with so much joy that I can hardly contain it!

                If they had come about by my own doing, I would have reason to boast.  I would be prideful.  I would have reason to look down on other people because they can’t do what I can do.  Then I would look at the people who can do things I can’t and feel inferior.  I would ask myself, “What’s wrong with me that I can’t do what they can do?”

                Because these competencies are from God, though, and not my own doing, HE is the one in Whom I can boast!  There is nothing that I can do on my own.  When a plan comes together beautifully, it's not me at all: it's God!  My passions, the concepts and causes that drive me, are my passions because God has a plan for it.  Those things that I do well, I do them that well because He has a purpose for it.  Those things that I am mediocre at, despite attempts to improve, He has a purpose for it.  When I DO improve in an area, guess what... it's God!  And those things that I CAN’T do at all?  You guessed it!  God has a plan and a purpose in my inability as well as in my ability!

                “Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers.  Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.  He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.” (James 1:16-18, NIV)

                Does this mean that EVERYTHING about us is good, and from God?  No.

                “The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, faction and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.  I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.”  (Galatians 5:19-21, NIV)

                Yes, we were “fearfully and wonderfully made” by God, for His purposes (Psalm 139).  However, we were born into a fallen, sinful world and the consequences of sin are our eternal inheritance unless we commit our lives to following Jesus.

                When we give ourselves, our lives, our abilities to God, He will turn them around and use them for the purposes He has always had for them.  I find so much joy in the fact that the One who sees the outcome has given me my passions, talents, and spiritual gifts, and that it is with HIS competence that I walk through this life.

How Do I Talk To God?

This morning started like any other weekday morning.  After fighting with my alarm clock for about twenty minutes, I dragged myself out of bed and went to take a shower.  By the time I finished in the bathroom I was coherent enough to function and somewhat presentable.  I packed Boss-Man’s lunch, saw him out the door with a kiss, made the bed, and headed to the living room with my bowl of cereal (awesome breakfast, I know) to start my quiet time.

First things first.   I pulled out the prayer request book from my Sunday School class at church. (crunch, crunch goes a bite of cereal) God, please bless the couples going on the marriage retreat this weekend. (crunch, crunch)  Please bless this person having surgery next week, protect them and help them to heal quickly. (crunch, crunch, crunch)  About this time my tea kettle went off so I grabbed my cereal bowl and headed back to the kitchen to pour up my requisite cup of tea.  The whole way there, I continued down the list, punctuating each item with the crunch of my cereal.

Standing there at my kitchen counter, working on the last bite of cereal, it struck me that maybe I was going about it the wrong way.  I’m not necessarily saying that it’s wrong to eat while you pray, because we’re supposed to pray continually (I Thessalonians 5:17).  That’s a whole other post.  What I was wrong in was the way I was approaching the throne altogether.  I was allowing distractions to divide my attention.  I was talking to God as though I were calling to place an order for something.

“Yes, I’d like to order blessings for friends, ummm, about five couples.  I’d also like the safe surgery and smooth recovery, I think it’s on page 17 in the catalog…”

That type of prayer is a one-way conversation, which is better than no conversation at all, but still not true conversation.  It’s going down a list, shooting off item after item without waiting for any response.  It’s the difference between calling to place an order and calling your best friend to discuss what’s going on in your life.  You might still use a list, there’s nothing wrong with that!  I have to use lists just to make it through my day without forgetting something catastrophic.  It’s about pausing to let the Holy Spirit speak to you.

When we sit down to do our quiet time, we need to minimize distractions.  For me, that means I need to finish that bowl of cereal and pour my tea BEFORE I sit down with the Word.  We also need to pour out our souls to the Father the same way we do when we sit down with a friend over that same cup of tea (or coffee), with true conversation.  We need to listen as much as we talk.  It also helps to be well rested, so that you’re not dozing off when you’re trying to listen.  If that means moving around and doing a few things before having your quiet time so that you can be fully awake, then that’s what you should do.  Find what works best for you, and make it a habit to sit down with the Father every day.

Mary vs. Martha

Mary vs. Martha

As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him.  She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said.  But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made.  She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself?  Tell her to help me!”

“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed.  Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

- Luke 10:38-42

This is an almost daily battle for me.  My day starts with rolling out of bed and stumbling to the bathroom to take a shower.  Once that’s done, my eyes are usually open enough that I can manage to dress myself, then it’s off to the kitchen to pack my husband’s lunchbox for the day.  By the time he leaves for work, I have been out of bed for a little over an hour and can function somewhat like a human being.  At this point, I am faced with my daily struggle… do I go sit down in the living room with my Bible and dig in to the Word, or do I start tackling the mountain of housework that is always waiting for me no matter how much I get done the night before.

If you were to ask me, point blank, “Rebekah, which should you do?” the answer would be easy.  I should be like Mary and go sit down to have my quiet time with God.  However, when I look around my home in the morning, Martha starts to take over and I start thinking about the clean dishes that need to be put away, the laundry that is always there (six people can make a very large laundry pile very quickly, especially when one is a toddler learning to use the potty), planning out the steps that need to be done to have good nutritious meals and snacks, the preparation that needs to be done for the day/week’s schoolwork, etc.  These thoughts can get overwhelming, and my very human need to be in complete control of my environment often takes over.

I can get so caught up in what I think needs to be done that I forget about what God says I need to do.

When we have a specific part of our day set aside for Bible study and prayer, and actually DO it, we will grow steadily closer to God.  This will in turn affect the rest of the day.  The days I slip up and skip my quiet time are almost invariably the days that I lose my cool with the kids, that I get completely frustrated and overwhelmed in the kitchen, etc.  It’s when I sit down and read my Bible and spend time in prayer that I draw closer to Him.  That is when I can feel His gentle guidance more strongly throughout the day.  The kids and I may still “butt heads” over the things they don’t want to do, but I am able to handle that conflict with much more grace if I have spent time with God first that day.

When you look in the mirror each day, who do you see?  Do you see Martha, going about your daily chores and leaving no time for God?  Or do you see Mary, realizing that God should always come first, that the chores aren’t going anywhere and will still be sitting there patiently waiting for you to tend to them after your quiet time?

Where are YOUR priorities?

"Now this is what the LORD Almighty says:  "Give careful thought to your ways.  You have planted much, but have harvested little.  You eat, but never have enough.  You drink, but never have your fill.  You put on clothes, but are not warm.  You earn wages, only to put them in a purse with holes in it." (Haggai 1:5-6, NIV)

Unfulfilled.

Discontent.

Dissatisfied.

How many other words can we come up with to describe that feeling of emptiness we all have known at some point in our lives?  According to Roget's 21st Century Thesaurus, some synonyms for "discontent" are depression, displeasure, envy, regret, restlessness, uneasiness, and unhappiness.

What causes this?  Why do we all feel so dissatisfied when we keep pouring ourselves into the things that are supposed to make us happy?  We think our priorities are in line, but are they?  We work hard all week long to bring home that paycheck, which is immediately spent on the important things: food, shelter, transportation.  What time we have at home, we spend focusing on our families, on our children.  That's what we're supposed to do!  Isn't it??

Not if we're placing these priorities before God.

Don't get me wrong here... those ARE critical priorities!  However, they will amount to nothing if we are not placing God FIRST in our lives.  "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." (Matthew 6:33, NIV)  Jesus promised our needs would be met (notice that I say needs, not desires), but we have to place God's Kingdom first!  Seek out His will for your life, and pursue that first. Does He want you to serve where you are?  Awesome!  Do it!  Does He want you to drop everything and do something totally different, or go somewhere totally new?  Awesome!  Do it!  "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." (Romans 8:28, NIV)

My challenge to you today is to read the book of Haggai (less daunting than it sounds... it's the 2nd shortest book in the Old Testament!), then read Matthew 6:25-34.  Study and pray on these passages, and your priorities.  Ask God what steps He wants you to take to place Him first in your life.

Praying for God's blessings on you!
~Rebekah